Greener on the other side...really?

Past midnight, guess I could finally find some time to write…so much for having my topic posted by afternoon!

The saying goes “the grass is always greener on the other side”, and unfortunately there are people, me among them, who support this far more than we should.

Me, for example, each time I see another couple I tend to notice the good things the male significant other does, and how by far their relationship seems to or looks much better than mine…at least in the outside. I have become so frustrated sometimes, that I even focus on what the female partner does wrong, that I don’t (do), and how that doesn’t affect at all the affection they receive from the other person, and for me it doesn’t work the same way… Isn’t this sick?

I guess it is, and although some might go too quickly in classifying this as a mere act of enviousness, I tend to think we all, in one way or another, gravitate toward the belief that our pain is greater than the one suffered by others, or that other people’s situation is better just because they have a better standard of living, better cars, wives, husbands, salaries, you name it.

Yes, just right now, most of you reading this must be thinking “ I have never thought that…ever!” , “I’m not that mean-spirited”, and that’ll be great, but I know a lot of people who might deny this, but deep inside they know, they have thought about this at least once. Don’t get me wrong, I only think about this when it comes to relationships, I couldn’t care less about other people’s material stuff - and that my friends know it’s true-, I’m talking here about a general thought that can encompass a broad amount of subjects.

For instance, there’re those who think that just because you live in Belgium, London, Germany, wherever different from Venezuela (my country), you are simply better than them, without taking in consideration, that for whatever reason that might as well not be the case.

Well, the reality is that, no matter how dandy other people’s lives are, when you look at your own and think how shitty it is in comparison, look closer and start noticing the good in it compared to those who have even less than you do, and you’ll start appreciating and focusing on that, instead of wasting time in lamenting what you lack of…believe me, there is always somebody out there in a worst situation than yours.

For starters, don't take for granted your health, you don't want to know about having issues with it, always remember that without it, there's nothing, and I mean nothing !

As for me, I’m reaching for my better judgment and good sense whenever those pervasive thoughts about "better couples" come to my mind, first and foremost because that only makes the distance from what you have and what you expect much further, almost unattainable, and because we are all different, and there’s good and bad in all of us, so there’s no real point in comparing.

I do think, on the other hand, that we can learn from the people and situations around us, and pick up what we think is positive in them, giving us a rounder sense of being, providing a different perspective and opening our thinking and eyes to become day by day a better person.

This will be it for now, I guess the end leads me to my next post which will be “To change or not to change” …

Comments more than welcome as usual =)

As ET said it…”Be good”

AG