If having no time is all that I'm left with...then, in the meantime, I'll post thoughts through music...through people that know how to put together feelings in a way I could never even get close, so I hope -if there's still somebody visiting this every now and then, you get to know this music genius named Damien Rice.
I'm just speechless when it comes to describe him...I went to his concert this past Monday, and I was blown away, he reinvents himself on stage in a way that almost puts his CDs to shame, and those are just magnificent...so go figure !
It might be a bit strident for some, to me...total genius !
Enjoy !
AG
Thursday, March 29, 2007
Tuesday, March 13, 2007
Learning: does it always have to be the hard way?
I had planned to talk about fear, but an early event this morning had me thinking about the learning process, or is it adapting process or am I stepping into the changing process as well?
It all sounds overly complicated, but they are all intertwined and the whole process cannot be possible without applying them all. The saying goes like: "nobody learns from somebody else's experiences", which is true, but sometimes how many times something unpleasant has to happen to us till we decide it's time not to do it anymore or that we need to change our reaction towards that given situation in other to change the outcome?
Answer: I don't know...What can we do? Be drastic? Do we really need to lose the cool to get results? Why does it seem that we learn through regret...If I had the chance again...if I could I'd do it different this time around...If she/he was still here I'd be different...really? Is that so? What the hell don't we think straight at the very moment and realize that we don't know when this moment of regret will come, that we are here now, but in the blink of an eye we might not.
It is indeed a very apocalyptic take on the matter, but that's life, we should not go by it thinking it will last forever, and we'll have thousand years to apologize to our loved ones for some hurt caused. I have totally digress, or maybe not...I basically applying learning to relationships, when we are in corrupted relationships, the whole process of learning loses perspective, and then we are just trapped in deteriorated circles where the way out is sometimes -or maybe for some- to hard to find. So of course, for beginners the trick is not to let it become corroded, but what with the damaged deals, don't we have a chance?
When enough is enough? Which is that defining moment that marks the turning point, does it always have to be a dramatic one? One where regret is all there's left?
Do people change? Can we really adapt? In relationships how many times you need to be reminded of something before you actually realize that what you are doing or the behavior you are opting is causing damage, is it really too difficult to seat down and just digest that it is wrong, it affects your other "half", and it needs to go away in other for the relationship to evolve?? If something is bad it doesn't mean it needs to be bad forever, I believe things can change, but I guess the other person needs to believe that as well, otherwise fuck the learning, fuck the change, and fuck the relationship !
We are all about evolution, and even our relationships at all levels need to evolve, but we need to learn how to adapt and change in a good way for those to grow at the same time that we grow and want and mainly need different things.
It all sounds overly complicated, but they are all intertwined and the whole process cannot be possible without applying them all. The saying goes like: "nobody learns from somebody else's experiences", which is true, but sometimes how many times something unpleasant has to happen to us till we decide it's time not to do it anymore or that we need to change our reaction towards that given situation in other to change the outcome?
Answer: I don't know...What can we do? Be drastic? Do we really need to lose the cool to get results? Why does it seem that we learn through regret...If I had the chance again...if I could I'd do it different this time around...If she/he was still here I'd be different...really? Is that so? What the hell don't we think straight at the very moment and realize that we don't know when this moment of regret will come, that we are here now, but in the blink of an eye we might not.
It is indeed a very apocalyptic take on the matter, but that's life, we should not go by it thinking it will last forever, and we'll have thousand years to apologize to our loved ones for some hurt caused. I have totally digress, or maybe not...I basically applying learning to relationships, when we are in corrupted relationships, the whole process of learning loses perspective, and then we are just trapped in deteriorated circles where the way out is sometimes -or maybe for some- to hard to find. So of course, for beginners the trick is not to let it become corroded, but what with the damaged deals, don't we have a chance?
When enough is enough? Which is that defining moment that marks the turning point, does it always have to be a dramatic one? One where regret is all there's left?
Do people change? Can we really adapt? In relationships how many times you need to be reminded of something before you actually realize that what you are doing or the behavior you are opting is causing damage, is it really too difficult to seat down and just digest that it is wrong, it affects your other "half", and it needs to go away in other for the relationship to evolve?? If something is bad it doesn't mean it needs to be bad forever, I believe things can change, but I guess the other person needs to believe that as well, otherwise fuck the learning, fuck the change, and fuck the relationship !
We are all about evolution, and even our relationships at all levels need to evolve, but we need to learn how to adapt and change in a good way for those to grow at the same time that we grow and want and mainly need different things.
Thursday, March 8, 2007
Herewith a little note, and Coming up: "It's all about fear..."
I apologize for having asked for comments...guess it was a misunderstanding of the blog usage. In the end it's true you write and so it goes, the writer never gets replies back, only in the form of reviews or word of mouth later.
If you feel like it please feel free to comment about it, if not I hope you have read anyways and enjoyed it =)
I need to get better, I got the flu =(
If you feel like it please feel free to comment about it, if not I hope you have read anyways and enjoyed it =)
I need to get better, I got the flu =(
Wednesday, March 7, 2007
Granted: It might be a little bit of both
I'm back ! This topic about luck has been going around in mind for quite some time now, but it has been difficult for me to put it together due to the controversy it unleashes in my own mind.
I'm going to quote a little fragment of Woody Allen's Match Point in here: "The man who said "I'd rather be lucky than good" saw deeply into life. People are afraid to face how great a part of life is dependent on luck. It's scary to think so much is out of one's control. There are moments in a match when the ball hits the top of the net, and for a split second, it can either go forward or fall back. With a little luck, it goes forward, and you win. Or maybe it doesn't, and you lose."
I'm a full supporter of this, I do think that luck is what you need to mainly success in life at all levels, of course, you need to put a bit of your effort, but in general if you have luck you are done ! But then again, I was discussing this with two friends (M&M) of mine, and they were both supporters that it's not luck to blame for success, it mostly lies in the choices people make. So, after thinking about this for awhile, I cannot deny the fact that, in a way this is true, some people have the bold courage in taking decisions that lead them to what we can randomly call luck..."she was so lucky in finding that husband", for example, but maybe the reason behind that is, that she tossed wrong candidates before, leading her to her "good choice", what to others that might be luck.
But if we give 100% to choices, then what makes some people always pick up the wrong ones, and for others always or most of the times the good ones? Is it that they are smarter? Are they clairvoyants? Better judgment? Or was it my friend luck behind all of that? Were they born with a good star as the saying says?
I've seen people far from being suitable for job positions, yet they are there, and sometimes with no other qualification that being "well gifted"; I've seen terrible women with great men and vice versa, sometimes they don't even have to choose, things get to them easily, on the other hand, I've witness good, more than appropriate workers for certain positions, don't getting what they deserve, good women with horrible men. I can say for the latter that it might be a matter of a bad choice, but let's say a woman is married to a cheater, and decides to leave him, that is already a fine choice, right? But then some of them stay alone, and don't find somebody else again, although they can go out and do their best to find somebody new; therefore I have to acknowledge is a matter of both good choices + luck, right?
As much as I grant a lot of value to the choices people make, and I admire a lot those who aren't afraid, and just go for it, which makes them already deserving of the best, I have to say that to me the equation goes like this: be good at what you do, if you're the best at that it doesn't hurt, be at the right place at the right time and with a bit of luck you're really done!
Watch this 45 seconds.
AG
I'm going to quote a little fragment of Woody Allen's Match Point in here: "The man who said "I'd rather be lucky than good" saw deeply into life. People are afraid to face how great a part of life is dependent on luck. It's scary to think so much is out of one's control. There are moments in a match when the ball hits the top of the net, and for a split second, it can either go forward or fall back. With a little luck, it goes forward, and you win. Or maybe it doesn't, and you lose."
I'm a full supporter of this, I do think that luck is what you need to mainly success in life at all levels, of course, you need to put a bit of your effort, but in general if you have luck you are done ! But then again, I was discussing this with two friends (M&M) of mine, and they were both supporters that it's not luck to blame for success, it mostly lies in the choices people make. So, after thinking about this for awhile, I cannot deny the fact that, in a way this is true, some people have the bold courage in taking decisions that lead them to what we can randomly call luck..."she was so lucky in finding that husband", for example, but maybe the reason behind that is, that she tossed wrong candidates before, leading her to her "good choice", what to others that might be luck.
But if we give 100% to choices, then what makes some people always pick up the wrong ones, and for others always or most of the times the good ones? Is it that they are smarter? Are they clairvoyants? Better judgment? Or was it my friend luck behind all of that? Were they born with a good star as the saying says?
I've seen people far from being suitable for job positions, yet they are there, and sometimes with no other qualification that being "well gifted"; I've seen terrible women with great men and vice versa, sometimes they don't even have to choose, things get to them easily, on the other hand, I've witness good, more than appropriate workers for certain positions, don't getting what they deserve, good women with horrible men. I can say for the latter that it might be a matter of a bad choice, but let's say a woman is married to a cheater, and decides to leave him, that is already a fine choice, right? But then some of them stay alone, and don't find somebody else again, although they can go out and do their best to find somebody new; therefore I have to acknowledge is a matter of both good choices + luck, right?
As much as I grant a lot of value to the choices people make, and I admire a lot those who aren't afraid, and just go for it, which makes them already deserving of the best, I have to say that to me the equation goes like this: be good at what you do, if you're the best at that it doesn't hurt, be at the right place at the right time and with a bit of luck you're really done!
Watch this 45 seconds.
AG
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